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The summary of a book entitled “CHOOSING TO LIVE” by Dr. Thomas E. Ellis & Dr. Cory F. Newman

A suicidal person once said “It’s like I want to be dead, but not forever:”

1) Suicide is an Ugly Word. – To help get rid of this stigma, you should think of suicide as a problem-solving situation. Basically there is no such thing as a rational suicide.

2)Who are the Suicidals? – Basically there are two types. They are either extremely depressed, manifested in many different ways, (mostly men), or they are extremely controlling (mostly women). The extremely depressed are interested in death (life is too painful) whereas the extremely controlling just want attention and are afraid of abandonment. One way in dealing with the recognizable potential suicidals, if you can eliminate the stigma in talking about suicide, is to set up two columns (one headed “advantages of living” and the other headed “advantages of dying”) on a piece of paper, and have the potential Suicidal list the various advantages as he or she sees it. If the advantages of dying outweigh the advantages of living, the counselor has to work with the potential suicidal on the advantages of living. Some of the risk factors that one should look for in assessing whether one is suicidal or not are 1) has he or she tried it before, 2) has suicide been part of the family’s history, 3) is the person deeply depressed or extremely withdrawn, 4) is there excessive substance abuse, and 5) is there a specific plan in place to commit suicide.

3)Who are the Suicidals – Continued – They are usually the people with strong negative backgrounds, either genetically or environmentally. And to help those with this heritage, it’s good to continue encouraging those with these suicide tendencies to continue listing reasons for living on a piece of paper.

4) Should Suicidals be Changed? – No, but their decision-making skills have to be greatly improved, which means they have to see both sides of an issue in order to make an intelligent decision. This means they also have to see the advantages of suicide with their various downsides in order to make an intelligent choice. This should all be done on paper as well so that the potential suicidals can see it all written down before them.

5) Handling a Suicidal Impulse Crisis.- One should try to delay the suicidal impulse crisis, so that the crisis would no longer be so urgent to complete. And to do this you could encourage the Suicidal to sleep it off, talk to a trusted friend about their situation, (This is why the Suicide Prevention hotline is so important), or call 911 or any other emergency telephone number. A longer delaying tactic could be to have them reflect in writing on any unfinished business they would want to accomplish before they die, and encourage them to pursue these goals. Then they should start to enjoy living again. And a third possibility would be for the Suicidals to begin nurturing themselves by keeping themselves well groomed, listening to soothing music, enjoying good food, appreciating beautiful scenes or looking after their pets. But this will take some initial will power.

6) Thinking and Feeling -You feel what you think, whether consciously or unconsciously, but your thoughts are not necessarily facts.

7) How to Change One’s Thinking – To change one’s negative suicidal feelings, one has to change one’s thinking. There are several ways in which to do this. There is the functional approach (after the negative thought surfaces, ask yourself where is it getting me), the logical/empirical approach (after the negative thought surfaces, ask yourself where is the evidence for such a thought), and the questioning approach (after the negative thought surfaces, ask yourself are there other possibilities for such a happening). You can try all these approaches and see what works best for you. Everyone is different. But always do this in writing because it stays with you much longer, and persevere in your efforts because it’s only successful if you keep on trying. And if none of these methods work, try the behavior approach whereby do the opposite of what you’re feeling, because eventually your behavior will start to effect and change your thinking.

8) Coping with Suicidal Feelings – There are also ways to accommodate your feelings while you’re in the process of adjusting your thinking. This can be done by obtaining support from empathizers, ventilating your feelings appropriately, engaging in constructive distractions, or participating in enjoyable recreational activities, and practicing various relaxation techniques (ie, meditation).

9) Learning to Solve Problems – Suicidals actually believe that death is the solution to all problems, but suicide is really the problem to end all solutions. So if you want to solve problems, you have to forget about death. And if you’re underestimating your ability to solve problems, you should look at your past experience in recalling if you solved other people’s problems as well as your own.. If you did, it suggests that you still have the capability in solving problems. But what are the ingredients that you need in order to solve problems efficiently. There are actually 6. They are 1) that you have to have the problem-solving mind-set, 2) that you have to have the ability to define the problem, 3) that you have to have the ability to generate alternative ideas to solve problems (brainstorming), 4) that you have to evaluate these ideas and decide on a course of action, 5) that you then have to take this action and test the results, and 6) that you have to realize that the results don’t have to be perfect.

10) Other Skills to Improve your Life – There are some other approaches you can use to lessen suicidal tendencies. Some of these are 1) learning how to become more assertive, 2) improving your relationship-enhancement skills by making your presence known to others, being responsive to kind words and invitations, making a point of treating others with consideration and respect, and learning relationship skills through how you associate with your pets, and 3) involving yourself strongly in helping other people.

11) Developing a Philosophy of Life – But behind all these techniques, one has to discover a new, but meaningful philosophy of life for these potential suicidals, so that they would CHOOSE TO LIVE a much more abundant life, as opposed to dying prematurely.

Appendix – Guide for Concerned Friends

Signs to Look for

1) The person talks about suicide.

2) The person makes final plans. (gives away prized possessions)

3) The person’s behavior pattern changes in disturbing ways.

4) The person behaves in ways that are self-injurious or stem to invite danger or harm.

5) The person has experienced significant losses in a short period of time.

6) The person suffers from a chronic illness.

7) The person has suffered extreme social humiliation.

8) The person abuses mind-altering substances and has access to firearms or other instruments of self-destruction.

9) The person has tried it before.

10) Suicide seems to run in the family.

In any of these situations, don’t overreact or under-react, take the middle ground and dialogue with the suicidal to see what’s really going on with him or her in a very calm, and nonjudgmental way. But don’t ever feel his or her feelings are your responsibility. They have to make the choice themselves whether they want to live or die.

Summary of the book by Corbin M. Wright

A Question on Internet: If a person is terminally ill, has excruciating pain that can’t be relieved, and/or is so frustrated that they can’t do anything for themselves anymore and desires to die, is mercy killing a viable option?

1) Corbin says: I personally don’t feel that I can do this, but at the same time I feel it really would be a
tough choice to make if a request like this were made.

2) Sandra says: A very sensitive subject indeed. However, life is precious to the Creator and his son so
there really would be many things to consider. What really is mercy killing? My mother became ill with a terminal illness, and she had us sign a document not to use any artificial means to prolong her life. We did this and felt it was right, although I’m not sure you’d call
this mercy killing.

3) Susan says: For one thing, I really don’t think that anyone who hasn’t first-hand experience with someone
they love, dying in excruciating agony over a long/short term, can really understand the full-depth of this. My father died at the age of 48 after a long and excruciatingly painful illness, despite taking many painkillers. He was a strong Believer and did not ask anyone to relieve him of his suffering through mercy killing. I myself don’t know whether I could stand the
agony my father had to go through in his illness. Therefore I really think people should have this choice of assisted suicide. On the other hand, I know a couple who had a baby who doctors said had no chance of living a normal life, yet at the age of 4, this boy was living as normal alife as any normal 4 year old boy would.

4) Tom says: A number of people have asked me to help them die, but I couldn’t do it. The only thing I did was to allow a person the blessing of release from this life.

5) Pamie says: My human self often feels the choice should be the individuals, my spiritual self feels God
is giving the experience of this suffering for some purpose. I so wish the 2 selves would meet at times.

6) Sarah says: I think that there is a strong case for allowing people who are terminally ill and suffering
dreadfully to die with dignity, and if they are unable to do it for themselves, I think that they should be allowed to be helped to die. It is almost certainly not according to Christian principles, but neither is forcing people to undergo appalling suffering and complete loss of
dignity, not to mention the knowledge that their families and friends are also suffering watching them go through this. It really would be easier to ask a doctor to administer an overdose or whatever than to do it yourself. However, I believe that if I loved the sufferer very much I would be able and willing to do it. I cannot speak for anyone else. The problem then would be: Would I love the person enough to go to prison for it? That’s hard. I don’t know.

The names of the commentarians have been changed, except for myself, to protect the privacy of the Internet contributors, but their comments are accurate.
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1. Set a Schedule

One of the most important home remedies for insomnia is establishing a schedule. Everyone has an internal body clock. By getting into a routine before bedtime, go to bed at the same time every night and waking up at the same time every morning, you help set your body’s internal clock. Once you make this a habit, your body will automatically set itself to fall asleep and wake up on a consistent basis thus avoiding those sleepless nights.

2. Don’t Waste Time In Bed

Another thing to avoid is wasting time in bed. When you wake up – get up. Don’t snooze or lie around for a few more minutes. Again, establishing a routine is important. In addition, don’t go to bed until you start to feel sleepy. If you’re not yet drowsy, do something in another room to wind down until you are drowsy and then go to bed.

3. Set up Quiet Time Before You Go to Bed

One of the problems with insomnia is all of the thoughts that race around in your mind keeping you awake. To avoid this, set up about 10-15 minutes of time before going to bed to review the day and put things in perspective. Think about events and unresolved issues and work out solutions so your mind doesn’t keep working on them when you want to sleep. Also, set up a plan for the next day so you aren’t awake worried about the things you need to do in the morning. A very effective way to clear your mind is to write all of these things down.

4. Have A Light Snack

One of the best known home remedies for insomnia is warm milk! There is a reason this has been used for such a long time – it works! A light snack consisting of warm milk, bread or a piece of fruit is a great way to fill up before bed without overeating. That being said, you want to avoid sugary snacks since they can excite your system and alcohol since it may prevent you from achieving the deep sleep your body needs to be completely refreshed.

5. Turn Your Mind Off

To keep your mind from wandering off into different directions and getting distracted with random thoughts, turn it off. There are a few home remedies for insomnia that will help you do this. You can do this by setting soothing music to play for a certain amount of time. Another very effective technique is to use environmental sounds such as rushing water or the ocean. This will help your mind wind down so you can slip into sleep.

6. Practice Relaxation Techniques

There are also yoga and meditation techniques you can use as home remedies for insomnia. Yoga breathing is an effective way to relax your body so you can fall asleep. Practice slowing down your breathing and breathing from your diaphragm. You’ll want to do this during the day so you know how to do it when you’re ready for bed. While you’re breathing, concentrate on relaxing every muscle in your body starting with your feet and working all the way up to your head.

Another relaxation technique is to focus your mind on things you enjoy, pleasant experiences you’ve had or fun times. You can also try mental games like counting backwards to help refocus your mind so you can relax.

All of these home remedies for insomnia are easy to use. As noted, you may need to experiment to find one, or a combination, that work for you. The most important of the 6 remedies discussed is establishing a routine and sticking with it every night. Start there and incorporate the other home remedies for insomnia until you find what works for you.
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To be single again, after a marriage break-up, is not the end of the world. There is life ahead after a relationship ends in a divorce or separation. After giving yourself some time to heal and to pick up your broken pieces, you will realize that being single again is neither a lonely nor a solitary life. On the contrary, you will realize, that the single life is a life of freedom, independence and self-discovery which leads to joy and fulfillment quite different from what you had before.

In a world where a woman has to constantly give in to the demands and expectations of a marriage partner, family and society, sometimes she loses balance between meeting her own needs and that of other people’s needs. She tends to give more of her time and resources to others, sometimes, neglecting her own. It seems doing things for herself was considered selfish. The woman who has just come out of a divorce or separation has given so much that she has become depleted and needs inner replenishment of her spirit to make herself whole and complete again. The single life, if lived well, will provide her the new well-springs to bounce back to a much fuller life.

Being single again gives you back your freedom and independence. Aside from getting full control of your time, you can spend it with friends whose invite you had been turning down and make up for lost time. You won’t carry a feeling of guilt if you come home late or have not fixed any dinner. You are free to eat anytime, anywhere you want. And you will just be as happy to spend for and on yourself whenever you need to. Your money is entirely your own. Now, you can pamper yourself with that massage or spa you had been dreaming of. You can start forgetting the gifts your former marriage partner used to give you or the dinners you had. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers.Save some money on that beautiful necklace or wrist watch that fancies you and gift yourself with that on your birthday or Christmas. If there is no one you can have dinner with, then dress yourself up and dine alone.You will never know who catches your attention when you are glowing with confidence.Plan your wardrobe well. Your clothes should highlight the best in you and radiate the beauty of the inner you. So it is very important that you make peace with yourself and let go of the past. Some new clothes, which are within your budget, can bring out the new you, totally erasing the memories associated with your old wardrobe.Just exercise moderation in your spending and in your activities. Surely you would not want to go broke and to be frowned at by society with your actions being interpreted as a cover up for your loneliness. You have to exude the aura of good bearing, confidence and grace.

The best thing about being single again which some women are unaware of is that this phase offers you the opportunity for self-awareness and self-discovery. If you live alone in the house, you will learn to do things yourself. Little plumbing or carpentry jobs will have to be your own skills now. With some help from a Do-It-Yourself handbook, you will realize that things are not that difficult to do after all. Mowing the lawn will be fun, so is car washing and some trouble shooting which you thought were a man’s job. Being alone in the house is not a lonely thing. You will have time now for the hobbies you had set aside for long because you were busy keeping house or running a family. Now that you are alone, crafts and art work, music and reading, baking and cooking, gardening and home decorating are now at your command. You can watch TV programs and movies of your choice. The precious time to be with your thoughts, in meditation or reflection or just simply being quiet emptying your mind of the day’s events are now your own. No one will pry on your quiet moments and you won’t need to explain anything whether the other person questions or not. The thing is, you can be yourself. In your period of self-discovery you will come to realize that you can enjoy being alone.Try some travel. You may perhaps thought that it is never fun to travel and go on vacation alone. But if you try to venture, first on a short trip, before trying on an out-of-the country get away, you will gain self confidence on yourself and discover that being alone can also be fun. There are trips and cruises for singles that are advertized at promotional rates and you can try to venture on this.This becomes an opportunity for you to meet other singles, make new friends and make your new life lighter and brighter.

The single life is often referred to as the life of single-blessedness. So, coming out of a broken relationship can have its blessing, too, if you only leave the past behind, learn its lessons and face courageously the present and live it well. To be single again is to have greater opportunities to share your time, talents, skills and a abilities to bigger community other than your family and friends. Like spokes in the hub of a wheel, being single again opens your life to many possibilities for personal growth. Regardless of age and the circumstances of the break-up, you will find that the new roads opening before you lead to a brighter, lighter and fuller life.
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On the Internet, one can find a varied amount of conflicting information regarding Insomnia aids. Simply put, Insomnia aids can be best described as appropriate solutions that are absolutely necessary for proper treatment of chronic symptoms of insomnia.
One of the first things people consider when they think of insomnia aids are sleeping pills. In general, sleep medications or sleeping pills are usually prescribed by doctors as a method for improving insomnia and inducing sleep. However, these pills are most effective as a temporary aid, but not as a long term solution. This is because long term use of these pills does have lots of side effects. Sleeping pills, if used for a prolonged period of time, can aggravate symptoms of insomnia rather than alleviating it.

Some side effects that can result due to extended use of sleeping pills are as follows:

Tolerance of the drug: Many people can build a resistance to the sleeping requiring an increasingly higher dosage which results in other side effects.
Drug dependency: Some become addicted to them where they feel they need them all the time in order to sleep.
Symptoms of Withdrawal: Stopping the use of sleeping pills abruptly can lead to a number of other symptoms like nausea and sweating.

It is safer to follow the natural path to cure insomnia because its side effects are minimal. For chronic insomnia, the best insomnia treatment is to get a good sleep environment, relaxation and behavioral techniques. Apart from these, there are certain other insomnia aids that are listed below.

Start to regulate your sleeping pattern. Sleep at the same time each night.
Exercise regularly.
Yoga, meditation, and other stress removing activities can help make it easier to fall asleep.
Consumption of alcohol should be limited prior to bedtime.
Avoid drastic temperatures in your bedroom. A comfortable temperature will work best.
Do not eat any meals within 2 hours of bedtime.
Apply some lavender to your pillow at night or play soothing music in the background.

A major part of the best insomnia treatment is to make people aware of certain basic facts about insomnia such as the symptoms of the disease, probable causes and the types of insomnia. This information is important so that people can understand insomnia in a better sense. Only then can the treatment be truly effective. All the methods that are described above provide much needed relief without risk of medication side effects or tolerance. However, an important fact about insomnia aids is that they can only alleviate the symptoms of insomnia rather than destroying the root cause of the problem. Hence, one should seek medical help and counseling whenever required so as to get the best treatment possible, particularly if the individual is suffering from chronic insomnia.

By keeping these different tips in mind, you will find that many different things can be classified as insomnia aids. The key is to keep trying different ones until you find the right combination that works for you.
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Your baby can sense what you feel

Babies are sensitive to emotions. They can recognize a happy expression and a sad one and they can also sense what other people feel. A study shows that babies can form generalizations about other personalities and this helps them to appease someone that is angry.

How babies sense your emotions

Babies are paying attention to the emotional reactions of adults. They watch and listen to our emotions, remember how we reacted, and they will use this on how they will act in the future. Babies are emotion detectives. Although you don’t say anything while you are upset, babies can distinguish what you are feeling through non-verbal signs like touch, body language, or facial expressions.

It is beyond human understanding, but babies understand all the verbal and non-verbal signs that we are displaying. They may not talk yet, but they can surprisingly recognize emotions. It is therefore important for us to display our emotions since babies are watching the things that we are doing. Parents are considered as their role models and babies will only reflect what they sense.

What to do when you are feeling negative?

Your baby reads your facial expressions as her guide to the world. Even the most loving parents have days when caring for a baby makes them want to pull their hair out. It is normal to feel frustrated or overwhelmed by your baby from time to time. Taking a brief break from your baby when you are feeling fused will protect her from your negative emotions. Spend a minute meditating, deep breaths, calling a supportive friend, taking slow, or listening to soothing and calming music.

When babies are surrounded by positive, healthy people, they bloom. When your baby gets a lot of smiles, she feels safe and secure. Dealing with your emotions can help your baby how to handle strong feelings. Emotions are not something to be ignored.

Handling your emotions around your baby

If you are thinking that your baby is getting smarter every day, then you are right. They are taking in everything around them, especially you as their parent. You are your baby’s first teacher. Your facial expressions will guide, comfort, and warn her. As your baby grows, she develops the ability to read emotions based on your facial expressions. With your encouragement or caution, your baby is learning how to navigate in world. It is true that your baby doesn’t understand all of your words, but she can look at your expression and decide what to do.

Babies love it when you are being enthusiastic. Always communicate with your child in a very positive way. Express your feelings clearly. Babies can understand better if your facial expressions, tone of voice, and actions are matched. Facial expressions are contagious. Smile and the world smile with you.
Listening to music while you are meditating – not a good idea. … Anything you do with the thought that you are meditating is meditating. There are many ways to meditate. Personally, I find music to be distracting, but paying attention to sounds in your environment is part of insight meditation.

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There is profound spiritual energy in love and intimacy. Tantric (or Transformative) yoga is a spiritual system, if you will, and in Tantric teachings, sexual love is a sacrament, and Tantra’s goals are more exalted and broader in scope than simply to accomplish proficiency in sex. The ultimate goal is spiritual union with the cosmic consciousness, God, or whatever your particular words are for a higher power. Tantra can both elevate and deepen a couple’s relationship. Think of it as the art of conscious loving. Tomes have been written on it and it’s certainly worthy of deeper exploration.

For Dr. Johanina Wikoff, noted psychologist and Tantric instructor, the door to Tantra that she had been searching for opened when a book literally fell from a bookshelf and landed at her feet. The book was “Tantra, Spirituality and Sex,” by Osho Rajneesh. She picked it up and sat down to read it on the spot. She recalls, “It was exactly what I had been looking for. It was about reverence, it was about honoring, and about lovemaking as a meditation and a sacrament, a celebration and liberation. It won me over and I began reading every thing that I could.”

Says Wikoff earnestly, “The most important thing in lovemaking, the thing that makes for great sex, and even good sex, is the ability to be present, to be present in your body, to be present to your partner, to their touch, the way they smell, the way they feel, aware of everything about them. To feel and fully experience the sensations of the moment. Being present is very simple. It is attention and breath. If you take a deep breath, you can’t be in the past, or worrying about the things that might happen tomorrow. When you are paying attention to the breath and to the body, you are present, you are right there. That is what I do with people; I teach them how to be present to their experiences.”

Tantra, as Wikoff discovered, has informed and inspired generations in the art of lovemaking and conjugal skills. This controversial body of wisdom includes art, music, poetry, science, philosophy and, to a lesser degree, the martial arts. It appeared in India sometime around the 8th century and flourished there for more than 400 years, during which time it spread into Tibet and eventually China and Japan. As Tantric teachings radiated throughout the East, they inspired new schools of intimacy such as the Tibetan Arts of Love, the Japanese Pillow Book, Taoism, and the fabled Kama Sutra in India. All of these children of Tantra have one thing in common: a reverence for the spirit of ecstasy.

Wikoff’s search had begun several years earlier when she walked away from the soul-draining demands of her advertising career in order to create a more rewarding, sustainable life. She headed for the peace and unhurried pace of the Northern California mountains. After settling in, she put her energy into starting a community school for children and recalls, “Once I got there, built a house, and started working with the kids, I realized that I needed something to keep me from going crazy without the distraction of the world. It occurred to me that meditation would be a very good and natural thing to do. So I began meditating and was drawn to the teachings of a man named Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche.”

Trungpa, a Tibetan Buddhist, was one of the people most responsible for popularizing Buddhism in America and who eventually founded the renowned Naropa School in Boulder, Colorado. Wikoff began to study Trungpa’s work in earnest and was thrilled when he opened a meditation center nearby. “It was through his teaching that I eventually became aware of Tantra,” she remembers. “So I began asking questions and kept hearing references to this little known left-hand path that has to do with sexuality. When I would ask why we were not studying this, I was told, ‘It’s very dangerous. You must study for a very long time.'”

She did. And although the trail of her studies would turn out to be a winding one, a common thread guided her — her desire to understand the breath and the role that it can play in accessing and understanding emotions.

“My awareness of the importance of breathing developed while we were snowed in one winter,” she recalls. “I was suffering from a bronchial asthma attack and spent two weeks treating myself with herbs and struggling from one breath to the next. During that time I noticed that emotions started coming up, memories began coming up, and I was aware of every thought in my mind. I recognized that it was a powerful gateway, a vehicle for knowing myself and understanding where I was cut off from my feelings. I decided that when I recovered, I was going to learn all I could about the breath.”

She started with yoga, herbs, and meditation techniques, and then eventually discovered Reichian therapy and bioenergetics. “Once I got to the Reichian therapies I had the big ‘aha!'” she exclaims. “Oh, I see now! When we hold emotions in the body we hold our breath! When we are afraid, what do we do? We hold our breath. When we are angry or in shock, we hold our breath. Once I recognized that connection I continued to explore, and one teacher led to another. I eventually synthesized what I do now, what I know now, which is specializing in relationships and sexuality.”

As Dr. Wikoff discovered, however, this kind of keen breath awareness in Tantra can unearth emotional issues and memories that have been buried for years. People may find that they are angry with their partner, or that they have recollections of unpleasant experiences or abuse. If these issues arise, they must be worked through and resolved. But the ability of this intimate awareness to remove the barriers to communication and honesty is what makes it so powerful and compelling. When you achieve this, when you are present, aware, and breathing, the body relaxes and becomes more receptive. At that point the energy that is generated during lovemaking can expand and flow through your whole body. This is the foundation of all Tantric techniques.

“Sexuality is such a powerful force,” she continues. “It brings everything to the surface. In our culture we have so much addiction. One could use Tantra as an excuse to indulge those addictions. This is why it is such a dangerous path, and why it requires years of experience to master. You have to be attentive and able to recognize when you are conscious and respectful, and when you are losing yourself and becoming indulgent. Tantra teaches us that if we are mindful and present, we can indulge in our passions and desires without letting them control us. Knowing yourself and being aware is the way of Tantra.”

Tantra will likely remain a source of controversy, but not for Wikoff. When she stepped in to that Northern California bookstore and began the journey down the “left hand” path, she found the new life she had been seeking; a life that exchanged the buzz and bustle of the boardroom for awareness, presence and desire. With it came the opportunity for her to not only find personal fulfillment, but to teach a new generation of seekers how to breathe deeply, embrace life, and create more passion and love in their lives.
Listening to music while you are meditating – not a good idea. … Anything you do with the thought that you are meditating is meditating. There are many ways to meditate. Personally, I find music to be distracting, but paying attention to sounds in your environment is part of insight meditation.

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If you are someone who experienced a high amount of stress and anxiety throughout your day, then you will need a way of dealing with it that doesn’t involve drugging yourself up or simply avoiding your feelings. Too many people use these methods to deal with stress, and end up causing even more of it in their lives as a result. Meditation is a healthy and natural way to see a positive change in your life that will make a real difference you’ll notice right away.

Although meditation can be done at any time in the day, it is highly recommended that you do it first thing in the morning when you wake up. Before you are faced with any of the stressful things in your day, you should start off by taking the time to relax and give yourself some attention. We live in a society that tells us that focusing on ourselves makes us egotistical, uncaring people. The truth is that we all need to give ourselves what we give everyone else around us, love and attention.

When you start off meditating, it is important to keep a few different things in mind first. A lot of people are confused as to what they should be doing in these sessions, so you should know that it is really up to you. One of the great things about meditation is that it allows you to be creative and use your imagination. You can come up with a lot of different ways to relax yourself and achieve a certain state of mind that clears away everything else.

One of the most important things that you should remember to do is close your eyes. When your vision is no longer being stimulated by your surroundings, it will be much easier to attain a state of mind that will allow you to find the kind of peace and relaxation that you so desperately crave. If you want to put music on while you are meditating, go ahead. Just remember that any music you play should be soft and relaxing, so it does not distract from the true goal of meditation, which is to gather your thoughts and relax completely.
Listening to music while you are meditating – not a good idea. … Anything you do with the thought that you are meditating is meditating. There are many ways to meditate. Personally, I find music to be distracting, but paying attention to sounds in your environment is part of insight meditation.

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Have you ever chased after something in your life that you thought you truly wanted, then once having it, you realize it is only bringing you grief. In the beginning you really thought that was what your heart wanted, what you truly desired. At some level this may have been true. Somewhere along the path your mind took over, and you stopped listening to the signs and signals your body was trying to tell you.

It is true that in this life time you can have anything you desire, you simply have to focus your thoughts, emotions, and actions towards that. These actions have to come from the heart and not the head. The journey to getting what you desire in life, really has nothing to do with obtaining that desire, it is more about the lessons your learn along the way. It’s about learning who you really are and preparing yourself to receive it. Yes, there is work to do, steps to take to obtain your goal, but the real work is on the inside. When you get to this realization in the journey you find out just how much fun it can be to obtain that which you desire.

So how do you know if you are actually in your heart, or that your mind is telling you that you are? The first indications are the signs your body is telling you.

When I am acting from my head I feel restricted, almost like I am in a box, stuck and not knowing how to get to where I want to be. It’s a very heavy confusing feeling. The questions continue to come, but there are no answers. I feel more stressed about my goal and seem to concentrate more on what I don’t want than what I do want. My actions feel pushy, like I have to work hard and push my way through to get what it is I want. My body feels tight, sometimes a cloudy heavy feeling. My sleep tends to be restless or broken up. I can still picture my goal, but it always seems distant from me.

When I am acting in my heart, I feel light, comfortable, safe, almost as though I am walking on clouds. I can daydream about my goal, and it all seems so possible, in fact the ideas that come to me during the day dreams are actual steps I can take. I don’t seem to question myself, in fact answers seem to show up from out of no where. I don’t seem to get short with myself, or with others, I have more patience and compassion. The dream just flows to me, as I take a step, the feelings come more to life. The journey does not seem life work at all. As I go along I learn more about who I really am, and how this dream can help me to help others. The rough times are not about physically working to get my dream, they are more about letting go of what is blocking it from coming to me. Releasing what is in my way. When I ask for assistance with this, it just shows up. Being in my heart is simply a more loving comfortable place to be.

Here are a few meditations that will give you an indication of how different it feels to be in your heart with your mind still in gear, and one simply being in the heart.

With all meditation it is important to be in a comfortable position with your back straight and relaxed. Follow your breath in order to bring your body into a place of quiet balance.

1. Take a long slow deep breath in through the nose, and release it out through the mouth.
2. Repeat, this time releasing any thoughts and tensions on the out breath, just let it go.
3. Repeat.
4. Bring your attention to your feet, imagine roots growing out of your feet and into the earth.
5. With your breath allow this energy to flow through your body, grounding you with the earth.
6. Now slowly bring your attention to your heart area.
7. Feel your heart open, feel the warmth and compassion in this area.
8. With your breath allow this energy to flow throughout your body.
9. Sit an enjoy the energy of love and compassion as it flows through you.
10. When you are ready, slowly and gently come back into this time and this place.

Notice how you feel, how it feels to connect with that heart energy. Now move on to the next meditation. We will repeat steps 1-8 from the above meditation and add these steps.

1. Bring your attention to your mind.
2. Allow your mind to slowly drop down into your heart.
3. Continue to breath slowly until you feel this happening, don’t force it just allow it.
4. Continue to breath and stay in this energy as long as you can.
5. Pay attention to your feelings as you breath into this energy.
6. When you are ready, slowly and gently come back into this time and this place.

Notice what a difference it feels from the first mediation. When I do this, I feel an expansion all around me, I start to get beautiful pictures in my mind, I feel comforted and protected. With either of these meditations you can add some quiet music in the back ground, light a candle, or burn some incense, just what ever adds to the experience for you.

Either way you may still reach your goal, one way will bring you comfort and joy, the other will bring you stress, possibly some enemies, and not much joy. We always have a choice, we simply have to be aware of the intentions we set each day. May living from the heart be the one you choose.
Listening to music while you are meditating – not a good idea. … Anything you do with the thought that you are meditating is meditating. There are many ways to meditate. Personally, I find music to be distracting, but paying attention to sounds in your environment is part of insight meditation.

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All of us want to be happy. In fact in most polls people say that they want peace and happiness more than anything else in the world. The problem is: most of us are looking in the wrong places.

But all has recently been revealed thanks to a multi disciplinary team of six British specialists who span a variety of disciplines from psychology, psychotherapy to economics who embarked on an unusual social experiment.

Their unusual challenge?

What does it take to make residents of a town happy?

During their experiment in Slough, a commuter belt town, twenty two miles from the centre of London they discovered 10 “seeds of happiness”.

Ten things which when you do them all regularly will not only improve your life in your community but will make you happy and contented.

What are they?

o Plant something and nurture it. When you water and feed plants they grow. When you water and feed the seeds of your interest- they grow.

o At the end of each day stop and think how fortunate you are. Think of five things in your life that you are grateful for.

o Make time to talk to your partner. Every week sit down for at least an hour and talk with your partner or someone you love. That’s one hour without answering the ‘phone or watching TV or listening to music. One undisrupted hour with your loved one.

o Make that ‘phone call that you keep promising yourself you will make. Contact the friend with whom you haven’t spoken for a while.

o Treat yourself. Give yourself a treat every day and take the time to really enjoy it. Be good to yourself. This simple act breeds; self confidence and positivity and happiness.

o Have a good laugh at least once a day. Laughter helps to stimulate your immune system.
Research shows that laughter is important for people who survive a heart attack. It has been found that people are less likely to have a second attack, need less medication and have lower blood pressure if they allow themselves to see and laugh at humorous situations each day.

o Exercise. Make the effort to walk, run, jog, swim, whatever for half an hour three times a week. Guaranteed to reduce stress and make you feel good.

o Every day smile at and/or say hello to a stranger. Smiling is not only good for the person receiving it also makes you feel good too.

o How long do you spend watching TV? Research show that too much TV actually causes unhappiness. So make an effort to cut your viewing time by half.

o Every Day do a good turn for someone.

Now it’s down to you.

OUR CHALLENGE

Implement the 10 seeds of happiness into your life for two months and see the difference it makes.

It works.

Good Luck

Graham and Julie

http://www.desktop-meditation.com
Listening to music while you are meditating – not a good idea. … Anything you do with the thought that you are meditating is meditating. There are many ways to meditate. Personally, I find music to be distracting, but paying attention to sounds in your environment is part of insight meditation.

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Meditation music is music performed to aid in the practice of meditation. It can have a specific religious content, but also more recently has been associated with modern composers who use meditation techniques in their process of composition, or who compose such music with no particular religious group as a focus.

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People have tried different natural resources as anti anxiety agents like herbs, aromatherapy and various homeopathic. Prescribed medications are yet another alternative used by those who suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. As someone with anxiety checked in their boxes of experiences, it is very likely that all these treatments are things you have used to try and handle your problems. There are more choices to choose from however, those which are more natural if none of the above alternatives have proven successful.

Dealing with anxiety naturally can be done by studying several techniques to fight causes and triggers of panic attacks and anxiety. There are also diet to change, the things you need to avoid and the things you need to consume. Example of one thing you need to stay away from is caffeine. On the other hand, herbal teas work wonders to soothe your tension. Other natural methods to fight anxiety are deep breathing techniques and meditation. Exposing oneself to calm music, scheduling regular meditations and simply taking deep breaths are great, organic ways to lower the overwhelming tension you have.

If medication and other advanced options are something you prefer to stay away from in your fight against anxiety, natural ways are available for you to find relief as you use alternative methods which are healthy, relaxing and calming your body. Another great thing about using these is the fact that they have no side effects as well as the fact that application of these techniques are practical in daily life.

Countless people have done these methods to achieve complete healing; employing uncomplicated mind techniques in daily situations, one that you are surely capable of too. Do not push aside your anxiety, take immediate action.
Listening to music while you are meditating – not a good idea. … Anything you do with the thought that you are meditating is meditating. There are many ways to meditate. Personally, I find music to be distracting, but paying attention to sounds in your environment is part of insight meditation.